Accepting Imperfection: How Starting Over Led to Personal Rediscovery
- Leaves
- Feb 7, 2024
- 5 min read
In a world where perfection is lauded as the ultimate goal, I find myself trapped in the suffocating grip of my own expectations. I wait for the stars to align, for the timing to be just right, for everything to fall into place before I dare to take that first step. But what if I told you that I finally realized something that shook me? I can’t drive at 25. You know why? Because I never dared to start. To be in the driver’s seat. And that’s why, I’m taking a u-turn. Today is the day I start. Everything, all at once. I’m beginning to believe that the real magic lies in diving headfirst into the messy, uncertain journey of starting? I’m gonna break this down for me and you’ll start seeing what I’m talking about...
The Problem: Wanting the Perfect Start
Imagine I have a dream, a goal burning brightly in my heart. I envision success, happiness, fulfillment. But instead of leaping towards it with arms wide open, I find myself paralyzed by the fear of failure, by the daunting prospect of not measuring up to some imaginary standard of perfection. I wait, and I wait, and I wait some more, hoping that somehow, someway, the perfect moment will present itself.
But here's the harsh truth: perfection is an illusion, a mirage that leads me further away from my dreams rather than closer to them. The pursuit of perfection is a trap, a never-ending cycle of self-doubt and hesitation that keeps me stuck in place, forever yearning for a reality that may never come to pass.
I Am Better Off Starting Imperfectly
Now, imagine a different scenario..I take a deep breath, gather my courage, and take that first, imperfect step towards my goal. Maybe it's a stumble, maybe it's a faltering stride, but it's a step nonetheless. And with each subsequent step, I learn, I grow, I evolve. I embrace the messiness of the journey, the twists and turns, the unexpected detours. And in doing so, I discover a newfound sense of freedom, of possibility, of potential.
Because here's the thing: excellence isn't a prerequisite for growth. It's the result of embracing imperfection, of learning from my mistakes, of daring to venture into the unknown. It's about progress, not perfection. And by starting imperfectly, I give myself the opportunity to learn, to adapt, to become the best version of myself.
Seeing and Helping the Future Me
But why do I procrastinate? Why do I sabotage my own success, knowing full well the consequences of my actions? The answer lies in my psychology, in my tendency to prioritize short-term pleasure over long-term fulfillment. We’d all much rather have the McChicken burger than the 3 course home cooked meal, right? But that’s the problem, succumbing to the allure of instant gratification, of easy distractions, of fleeting pleasures, all the while ignoring the long-term consequences of my actions - will only lead me to darkness, confusion, and a mindless, purposeless life… and I don’t know about you- but it definitely scares the daylights out of me!
What if I could see beyond the here and now? What if I could glimpse into the future and witness the impact of my choices on my future self? Would I still choose to procrastinate, to delay, to put off my dreams for another day? Or would I seize the moment, embrace the opportunity, and take action towards my goals?
Sweating the Small Stuff : Every Drop Counts
When I think about starting a new project, it's easy to get overwhelmed by the enormity of the task ahead. I focus on the big milestones, the grand achievements, the lofty goals, while overlooking the importance of the small, seemingly insignificant actions that pave the way for success.
But here's the truth: it's the small stuff that adds up. It's the little habits, the daily rituals, the consistent effort that ultimately determine my success or failure. And by sweating the small stuff, by paying attention to the details, I set myself up for success, one small step at a time.
Create the Right Environment to Get Started
This one’s a tough one but also easily the most important thing for me to get started on anything. I need the space that makes it easy for me to start. For me this starts by turning to a new page or cleaning my workspace or making sure I’m smelling great when I sit to create or meditating just before I begin a start or lighting the room such that I get into the mood and mindspace for creativity.
My environment shapes my behavior in ways I may not even realize. From the people I surround myself with to the physical spaces I inhabit, my environment has a profound impact on my ability to take action and achieve my goals.
Think about it: how many times have we been derailed from goals by a simple distraction, a momentary lapse in focus, a fleeting impulse? Our environment is filled with potential distractions, with temptations lurking around every corner, waiting to pull us away from our path.
But by creating the right environment, by eliminating distractions and fostering a sense of focus and purpose, we can set ourselves up for success and increase the chances of achieving our goals.
The Science Behind My Why
Every time I’ve filled out a job application or written a cover letter, I’ve started with my reason for applying. I know that far more important than what I bring is why I bring those things to the table in the first place.
My why is the driving force behind everything I do. It's the reason I get out of bed in the morning, the purpose that propels me forward, the fuel that powers my journey towards my goals. And understanding the science behind my why can empower me to take action and make meaningful progress towards my dreams.
When I connect with my purpose on a deep, emotional level, I engage the part of my brain responsible for decision-making and behavior. I tap into my intrinsic motivation which as we all know is the most impactful driver of success in anything and everything.
And this is where I come in.
With my sharp wit (I like tooting my own horn, you should try it too sometime) and my unwavering determination in the power of starting imperfectly, I invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery and transformation.
I am tired of inertia. I am tired of fear working against my wellness. I am changing that today.
With Write To Leaves, I open up a space for vulnerability, for growth, for connection. I share my struggles, my triumphs, my journey towards becoming the best version of myself. And in doing so, I inspire others to do the same.
Today. Now. I urge. There's never a perfect moment. So even though I don't want to be recognized with a face right now, I have decided to start. And you can too, with me.
The journey of starting is not about perfection; it's about progress. It's about embracing imperfection, learning from mistakes, and daring to take that first, imperfect step towards your goals. And with me by your side, we can embark on this journey together, with courage, with determination, and with the knowledge that we are not alone.
Don’t wait for Christmas? Join me on this raw, real, and human journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Let's chase purpose.
